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| By Manager Online | 26 March 2010 12:59 |
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by Rachel O'Brien, March 26, 2010 UDON THANI, Thailand (AFP) - On what the locals jokingly call "Westerners street", Australian Justin Raines is laughing over a beer with his pregnant Thai fiancee Eve -- who at 21 is half his age. "It doesn't matter whether you're fat, you're ugly, you've got spew hanging out of your mouth or whatever else, there's some lady here who will want to take care of you," Justin says with a grin. Nine years ago he moved from Queensland to this hard-up, northeastern region of Thailand, known as Isaan, to be with his first Thai wife, whom he met on a trip to Bangkok. The pair later separated, but Justin said by then he had fallen for "laid-back" Udon Thani, one of Isaan's main towns, where he opened Western bars and went on to meet his new Thai bride-to-be. "The ladies here are the most beautiful girls in Thailand, Isaan ladies, and money-wise too -- it's cheaper here to live than it is in other places like Bangkok, Pattaya, Phuket," Justin said, referring to the capital and two top tourist resorts. Holidaymakers in Thailand rarely venture to Isaan, the country's least prosperous region, where downtrodden farms are more commonplace than the glitzy hotels and paradise beaches found further south. Yet many foreign men apparently share Justin's enthusiasm. He and Eve are one of an estimated 60-70,000 cross-cultural couples now in the region according to Buapan Promphakping, associate professor in social development at the local Khon Kaen University. The trend began back in the 1960s when thousands of US soldiers were stationed in the area during the Vietnam War. But it has continued apace, particularly as many poor Isaan women have left home to find work in the tourist hubs -- often as bar girls -- where they can meet foreign men and bring them back to settle in the northeast. Justin's fiancee, whose full Thai name is Nirruttaya Yapha, said "the way of life is easy" with her Western partner, who even helps with the washing up, and together the pair now run a small clothing business. But Justin's socialising with fellow expatriates is a sore point. "He's not single anymore and when they go out at night, they stay out until the morning. It's not acceptable, so we fight regularly," she said. There can be a darker side for both partners in these unions, in which big age gaps are common and Thai law means Western men often end up buying local properties in their wife's name. | ||||
Burdett said Thai-Western marriages could, however, work "fantastically well" -- and often provide a financial lifeline for the woman's family -- if couples have the right approach. "It's a question of both parties, especially the men, understanding that this is a very different culture and if you want a long-term relationship you're going to have to understand the culture," he said. Ronnie Behnke, 37, is trying to do just that, after moving from Brisbane in Australia to his wife Parnom's quiet home village in the Isaan province of Khon Kaen, where the couple have set up a fish farm together. "I was going into a jungle -- you hear a lot of bad stories about people being ripped off," he said. "I just moved along step-by-step to make sure this is what I wanted to do." Ronnie said he "hit it off" with his 26-year-old wife in the southeastern resort of Pattaya seven years ago, where he was on holiday and she worked as a housemaid, but he found his first visit to the northeast something of a shock. "They had nothing, her family. The toilet was a disgrace so I fixed the toilet, the shower. They wanted me to stay at the house but I couldn't use it," he said. "When I came here and saw people who have nothing to give, but they still give it, I thought: these are people I want to help." Ronnie hopes the farm will boost the village's economy, and he also offers advice to Western visitors on Isaan culture in his role as a volunteer with the tourist police -- authorities he reckoned it helps to have on side. "Now I have a safety net, now I have a group of people I can trust, I feel safe," he said. Although he admitted his Thai language skills are still fairly basic, Ronnie said he is happier hanging out with the locals than the expat community. "It's a shame because you see a lot of bar flies who have nothing better to do than drink all day and go back and harass their wives. Sometimes I want to say: well there's the airport, just go if you don't like it," he said. As for his wife Parnom, she seemed happy with her choice of partner. "I think I've found a good man, you know, and he takes care of me. I think I'm happy with this. Simple!" she said with a laugh. |
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